Drop the Mask
Be you, not someone else.
“There is a certain heaviness that seeps into every part of life when you walk through each day trying to be someone else. The energy put into hiding you are and then building any number of alter egos to satisfy society’s expectations of who you are eventually becomes crushing.
You may be able to keep up the illusion of survival or even joy for a short time, but in the end is always drags you down. The longer you wear the mask, the harder it is to keep up the facade, to muster modicum of civility, let alone joy. At some point, you have to choose. Will you continue to hide, living under the weight of expectation, or allow yourself to be seen?
The moment you choose you, the heaviness begins to ease. Seeds of lightness begin to grow. That doesn’t mean all of life’s problems drop away, but you get to turn loose the wellspring of energy that was being used to prop up the illusion, using it instead on the process of reconnecting with people, joy, meaning, and lightness.”
– Jonathan Fields, How to Live a Good Life, soulful stories, surprising science and practical wisdom