On enjoying a healthy and intentional relationship with social media.
Social media and I don’t always fancy each other. Truthfully, I’ve gone right off Facebook (I never really loved it and certainly never used it for business in the ‘proper way’). I deleted Facebook recently.
Twitter just gave me a headache.
I still secretly have a crush on Instagram.
My work is all about encouraging you to look up and connect with humans whose eyeballs you can look into and voices you can hear. It’s always been a tricky thing to balance the desire to share my words and stories with the people they may help or inspire, and having integrity when it comes to my social media use. I find it jarring when life coaches recommend time offline and yet capture all their every ‘mindful moment’ to share with me online.
Alexandra Franzen wrote about why she no longer uses social media and how it is totally possible to run a business without it. I agree with everything she says. Except I still fancy Instagram. And so I’m back over there for as long as it feels fun and helps people. Here’s what I wrote for my first post in months:
Hello stranger! I’m back. ???????? It’s been an odd time of massive change, illness and retreating from the world. I ditched social media as I felt like I had nothing to add and the ‘noise’ out there in the digital ether just pushed all my buttons and made me feel small and rubbish and blah. So I didn’t share or follow. I didn’t log on here. I deleted Facebook and Twitter. An old, woeful feed is worse than none, right? ????
I melted away from reality but never stopped capturing impressions of my life with my smartphone. ✨ Or writing to try and understand my choices and mostly, to silence the shouty critical voice in my head. I never stopped absorbing the stories and wisdom of others. I’m ready to share them with you. ????
Hello again. I’m pleased to be here (if you’ll have me). How are you? What’s happening in your world and how do you enjoy a healthy and intentional relationship with social media? ????✨????
– Clare Barry, writing @UrbanCuriosity
Which social media platform, if any, feels good for you right now? How do you manage your usage so you are ‘warm and nourished’ as Brene Brown puts it, not feeling like Facebook, Twitter or Instagram exist solely to drive you mad.